was hard. Not least cos it goes against the grain somewhat with my philosophies of how children learn and what is the best environment for intrinsic motivation. However what is working great for my older 5 is no longer working great for the youngest two. I have buried my head for long enough I think.
I had a chat with both of them this morning and we reached an agreement. D was very vocal that he wants me to decide what he should learn each day. This translated to him wanting to go back to how it was before. He wants to do things at the table and in the garden ( after a play first:) ) and I think that is cos he likes the 1-1 attention. Also he told me he feels scared when he has to work out what to do himself. ( so E.F was right - thanks E.F for that insight). B wants similar but him calling the shots:) That is fine by me.
I think this is a blip. I don't think they have lost the ability to self direct. I think they need a bit of guidance - maybe for a year or so or until life gets back on an even keel. I have a loose plan in my head but we will see how it goes. I am not doing anything formal at the moment cos it is too stressful here and we have 3 viewings booked this week already. I have this idea to do reading and maths with them and they choose any other projects based on a Waldorf gently does it approach with no major writing or long read alouds, cos they hate that. I intend to do alot of painting, sewing and claywork and see if they take it up too. I think it would help D's pencil control and manual dexterity and he enjoys that sort of thing. B loves sewing cos it is non sticky. Also they love science and I have signed them up for the BA Science Club CREST
programme which they really enjoyed when we did the Young Investigators with them. They are very excited about that and it comes in September. Help! I am rubbish at structure!
Hermione ( not my idea) and Teddy ( I just hope one is a boy and one a girl:) ) survived the night and are now munching on hay and a small amount of greens. They love being cuddled. Piccies tomorrow when they are stable. Chuds is great with them but Harry is a bit peeved so we are keeping them apart. The viewers today are second timers who thought we had gone off the market for good and are very pleased they are getting a second bite. Fingers and eyes crossed, dua's, prayers and good vibes, whatever your particular way is, cos we need an end to the limbo living asap.